Feb 5, 2012


My best friend Hye Jung recently did this drawing of Jesse and I. She is an amazing illustrator and designer, and I look up to her in so many ways. :)  I am posting this particular picture of Jesse and I because today is our 1 year anniversary! :-[)  We celebrated it yesterday since we had church today and Jesse having to go to work as well.  

Some thoughts on our first year together:

There have been a lot of learning curves for the both of us. Mine being more mental and emotional and Jesse's being more physical. Physical meaning, learning to get in the habit of putting the toilet seat down, helping with dishes, making the bed...mostly household stuff.  And then some specific issues that I have had to start dealing with and facing head on were and still are, things like: learning how to communicate better, NOT going to bed with hurt feelings or being angry, asking things of Jesse instead of assuming he will do them, and then having a reason for being upset.  Honestly, I would much rather deal with Jesse's issues than my own. Emotional stuff is more ingrained and deeply rooted, whereas learning to be better about picking up the bath mat can easily be cured in a year or two.... Our marriage is not perfect. If you read my blog and ever think to yourself "oh...their life is so perfect" well I am here to say that that is not the case. Because if we were perfect, then I honestly believe we wouldn't even be living on this planet, there would be no need to, because we have learned everything there is to learn obviously. 

 Jesse and I are far from perfect. What is perfect between us though is the "perfect" understanding that we both want to live to make each other happy. I believe that will never change between us....most days are fun and filled with tons of laughter and inside jokes, awesome activities etc....but then there are days where one of us or both of us is not on our best behavior, and that's okay...because I know that no matter what, we won't go to bed angry [Jesse won't allow it] and that each year will get better. I have learned so much from my best friend and have grown a lot emotionally in just one year. The main thing I admire most about Jesse and have been trying to work on with myself is how quick he is to say he is sorry. A huuuuge difference from my first marriage! I admire Jesse for that ability and hope to be as loving and patient as he is and to be just as quick to say I am sorry as well.  God blessed me with the best companion for me, and I thank him every day for Jesse, I can't imagine what my life would be like without him. With that said....

Every year we plan on alternating who has anniversary duty, and this year was Jesse. He booked us a beautiful room at the Hotel Monaco here in downtown Salt Lake City and then took me to dinner at Cucina Toscana. The ambiance was perfect and our meals were soooo good, that the bread and olive oil could have been dinner itself! If you have never been to either places, I highly suggest going!  Everything about last night was so special, I can't wait till next years! :)

Happy 1st Anniversary Jesse, I love and admire you so much!! xoxo


9 comments:

Vivi said...

Congratulation! You two look like the perfect couple - as you said, not because you are perfect - but because you really seem to be made for each other.
xxx

em said...

Lovely portrait!
I loved hearing your perspective, Roxy!
I love hearing how couples work together and are dedicated to making each other happy even though we are not perfect. I hope to have that in my marriage someday!

Suz said...

I LOVE the sketch by your friend. Congrats on one year and to the infinite years ahead.

ROXY MARJ said...

Thanks Vivi! I do think we are made for each other... :)

Thank you Egan. I wish Hye Jung would draw more...her work is so beautiful. I am glad you like my perspective... I don't ever want to paint a picture of this utopian life ya know...but to be as realistic and thoughtful as possible. I can't imagine that you would have nothing less of an amazing marriage...your energy is totally infectious! <- the guy that snags that is going to be so lucky!!! :)

Suzanne! Thank you so much!! xoxo

MissCorey said...

Congratulations! I can hardly believe it has been a year. I hope you have many more wonderful years together...like infinite :)

Jessica said...

Congrats! Great photos! :) Really...has it been a year already?

ROXY MARJ said...

Thanks Corey & Jessica! :)

indeed it has been a year! :-[) Serioualy, Jesse and I have been tripping the last two weeks of celebrating our first anniversary together, it felt like it was just a couple months ago we got married. :) But that saying...time flies when you're having fun is soooo true!! :-[)

Julie said...

This is so sweet and refreshingly real. So happy to have met you two and to see this wonderful relationship in action!

ROXY MARJ said...

Thanks Julie. :) I do hope we come off as real...because then hopefully that makes a person more approachable and relateable.. ya know? xo <- I think I spelled relate-able wrong...:/

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